I'm sure everyone can relate to feeling underpaid. I think what irks some folks is the notion that Connery would hold onto a grudge even beyond the grave.
In fairness, though, we don't know for sure that he did. He says he made his peace with Cubby, Dana said he offered sympathies. The memorial service was a public affair and as such there would be one reason for attending; to make a public display of tribute and/or reconciliation with Cubby. As far as we know, Connery didn't consider that necessary; if he made up with Cubby, that was between the two men, and there was no need to show up at a public service to "prove" to the world that their relationship was all patched up.
It's different with Roger and Dalton, who were always on good terms with Cubby. They could attend the event and merely add star power. But if Connery showed up, every newspaper report would print (and probably lead with) some stupid line like "Connery forgives Broccoli in death" (or something even more insultingly stupid like "James Bond has made peace with his oldest foe"), just as by not showing up he guaranteed the press would say, "Ooooh, Sean is still so mad he wouldn't even show up." Basically he couldn't win. By calling Dana -- which he didn't have to do -- he showed compassion to the person who mattered most.
The memorial was hardly a public event. The press were in attendance, but it was a closed shop as to what tributes and memorials were made during the service.
And I wouldn't say that Roger Moore and Timothy Dalton were there to add star power. They were there to pay their respects to the man and his family. And since when did Sean Connery get so shy of the press? Oh I know - he wasn't getting paid to attend the memorial (I say with slight tongue in cruel cheek).
Connery may not come across as a likeable man(if you believe the stuff written about him) but I believe he's far more grateful to Bond than some believe him to be.
If you class being "gracious" as turning your back on the role THREE times only to have a cheque change your mind.
Sean Connery wouldn't be a known name or a bankable commodity without Eon and the Bond films. And as he appears to be someone who prizes his money particularly highly, he should remember what a milk man in Edinburgh gets for a week's work as opposed to a world famous movie star.
I agree that he shouldn't be obliged to his bosses for ever more. But a little more decency, respect and loyalty would not go amiss in the movie world let alone everywhere else.
Who’s to say Connery wouldn’t have done as well or better without Cubby, Eon, and Bond. Connery had already turned down the role of Tarzan. Surely there’s a good chance other opportunities would arise for a man of Connery’s talent and presence.
I'm not trying to deliberately pick holes in your stance here, but what TARZAN movie? Which landmark TARZAN film that the filmic history books always cite above all others was Sean Connery foolish to turn down?
Dana was merely Cubby's wife.
And that, my friend, is where - when it comes to James Bond 007 in the cinema - you couldn't be more wrong. "Merely" is not a phrase I would use to describe Dana Broccoli's involvement in the biggest film franchise in the world.